I will definitely share that with friends in private, yeah. And I have little sympathy for the people who just, take their stuff down because they aren't in the fandom anymore, or whatever. Once you've shared a story it's not all yours anymore. And I'm generally less than delighted by all the "I'm turning this into paid origfic so I'm pulling the fanfic version" - if it's similar enough that it matters legally, it's probably similar enough that you shouldn't be selling first pub rights anyway.

But sometimes there are good reasons where it's having RL repercussions or there are fandom stalking situations or something. If you gave a gift and then realized it was hurting you, I'm not going to hang grimly onto it while you hurt.