This, definitely. My relationship to my queerness is made 1000x more complicated by the fact that the one serious relationship I've had*, the one I'm in right now, is with a dude. I know that I am exactly who the "bi people ain't queer enough" camp are talking about, basically. This debate has been really frustrating for me, for reasons that are related to but go deeper than the way it's been making queer female slashers invisible. Most of the people I interact with on a day-to-day basis assume I'm straight, and until now I'd thought fandom was a place where people weren't making that assumption.

* shy-ass geek girl, not so much with the asking either gender out!