When I think about the queer-or-something women I meet in fandom, I think a lot of them are people who wouldn't, for whatever reason, feel like they had a place in other LGBT spaces, but still really need a community where queer, of many kinds, is not remarkable

*blinks* Holy shit, were you reading my mind? Because I've had a lot of trouble lately in RL with the split between "I feel as if I'm suffocating in heteronormativity, help!" and "I have no idea whether I'll be welcome in LGBT spaces and don't think I want to risk it."