I was linked here by jamie and I just have to say - THANK YOU. I've tried to stay as far away from this whole debate as possible because a) it raises my blood pressure and b) all I kept hearing was "straight women shouldn't appropriate the gay man experience!" to which I, as a lesbian, kept going "...um. That's awful darn binary for the broad strokes you're painting with it."

So thank you. This is another one of those topics where I don't think anyone who's in a bunch about it is ever going to be satisfied, but not blatantly ignoring a good half of my slash-writing circle of acquaintances would be a good start.