Some of this originated in those old LJ posts! At this point I can't tell you which ones, though.
rachelmanija is very good at making every single commenter feel valued and welcomed and smart! She's also an amazing writer with great textual charisma, which doesn't hurt either.
You do just have to accept that you will get comments that are blunt and rude and not the comments you'd hoped you get. DW does seem to have a pretty strong site culture of politeness even in disagreement, so they are less likely to be outright mean than on other sites, but it can still be hard to deal with. Especially if the majority of commenters are telling you you're wrong, like happened in my HP post recently. :D That can still be a very good opportunity for discussion and learning, though, if you always remember that they are commenting in good faith and because they care about what you have to say and want to engage. and it helps that unlike on sites like Tumblr, where a bad reblog can make it halfway around the world and there's nothing you can do about it, anybody who sees the comment on DW can also see your rebuttal to it right there.
I very rarely post locked and almost never filtered but it is SO GREAT to know that I can when I need to.
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You do just have to accept that you will get comments that are blunt and rude and not the comments you'd hoped you get. DW does seem to have a pretty strong site culture of politeness even in disagreement, so they are less likely to be outright mean than on other sites, but it can still be hard to deal with. Especially if the majority of commenters are telling you you're wrong, like happened in my HP post recently. :D That can still be a very good opportunity for discussion and learning, though, if you always remember that they are commenting in good faith and because they care about what you have to say and want to engage. and it helps that unlike on sites like Tumblr, where a bad reblog can make it halfway around the world and there's nothing you can do about it, anybody who sees the comment on DW can also see your rebuttal to it right there.
I very rarely post locked and almost never filtered but it is SO GREAT to know that I can when I need to.