I sometimes find getting comments is surprisingly difficult, so I thank you for this! I found a lot of it very helpful, and will take all of this into consideration.
On the topic of responding to comments... I'd say to make your point clear. Sometimes people don't, and then when you miss the point, they take it personally. Don't vaguebook. In addition, realize people are going to have their own thoughts, and it may divert a little bit from what your point was - no matter how clear you were.
ETA: Another tip! Try not to start a topic using a specific example if that's not your point. I can almost guarantee you that people will latch onto that specific example, and anything else you say will wander deep into the forest, never to be seen again. This is true of RL as well, if I've learned anything from staff meetings. ;)
On the other hand, again... if you're only talking about that example, be prepared that some people might still use other examples. Maybe they're being willfully ignorant, but maybe they're trying to add to the conversation, and just didn't realize you weren't going for one, or misunderstood the discussion you were trying to have. Sometimes people are just being intentionally contrary, or even dismissive of you, but... don't assume that they are.
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On the topic of responding to comments... I'd say to make your point clear. Sometimes people don't, and then when you miss the point, they take it personally. Don't vaguebook. In addition, realize people are going to have their own thoughts, and it may divert a little bit from what your point was - no matter how clear you were.
ETA: Another tip! Try not to start a topic using a specific example if that's not your point. I can almost guarantee you that people will latch onto that specific example, and anything else you say will wander deep into the forest, never to be seen again. This is true of RL as well, if I've learned anything from staff meetings. ;)
On the other hand, again... if you're only talking about that example, be prepared that some people might still use other examples. Maybe they're being willfully ignorant, but maybe they're trying to add to the conversation, and just didn't realize you weren't going for one, or misunderstood the discussion you were trying to have. Sometimes people are just being intentionally contrary, or even dismissive of you, but... don't assume that they are.