I never did the Atlantic City thing, but Cape May is great because it is the birthplace of my future lover, Mr. Chris Carrabba. And Wildwood's boardwalk and amusement pier is terrific if for no other reason than the accents. Wildwood brings in shiploads of Irish people every summer for cheap labor, not quite sure why, but whatever. One of my fondest memories of Jersey was repeatedly getting on a haunted boat ride to make small talk with the Irish lady they hired to jump out and "scare" us.
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